Tuesday, January 22, 2008

A Quiet Surprise

I really try not to talk on here about activities of my ex-wife over our children. I do need to give a short synopsis though, as it will bring a little light on what I've got planned for Tracey, my current wife, over the weekend. There have been all kinds of ups and downs in my dealings with my ex-wife over the last few years. I've been with my current wife for over five years, we got married last year, and my ex-wife has been nothing but trouble to us and to the kids all the way through.

Briefly then, my ex walked out of our home and moved in with the bloke she was having an affair with; at the time she told the kids that she couldn't stay with them because she couldn't cope with them and it was their fault she was leaving. That came from her own mouth. What she told me was something else, entirely different, but I'd wager you can guess that it wasn't the kids fault or her fault she was going. I wont repeat it here. She has dodged maintenance payments for over a year, and even threats from my very generous solicitor have had very little effect. My kids have deep rooted psychological problems, and I believe this to be as a result of her behaviour. They behave like they want the lives of my new wife and me as difficult as possible, just as my ex-wife does. It stared off bad, and they've cranked it up and up over the last couple of years. Oh, and top of that we may well lose our home, our debt level has risen significantly as a result of the loss of maintenance payments, and this just tightens the huge stress on top of an already stressful home life.

So the effect of all this on my new wife is that she needs a break, a chance to relax and switch off. I'm trying to organise this. I've managed to organise a weekend away, and it's a complete surprise for my wife. I've booked the retreat with our holiday club. I've cleared myself for two days holiday at work. And as my wife's boss is also my solicitor for the case against my ex-wife, I've been able to talk to her and clear time off for Tracey for the weekend too, without her knowledge.

So we're off to enjoy some 'us' time. This is something we've not had since our honeymoon. Tracey needs it far more than me, and I'll be going out of my way to make this weekend as special for her as I can. I'm not sure what leisure facilities they have at this country retreat, but I'm looking forward to finding out. I'll probably be glad to get back to work on Tuesday and recover...

If you have any suggestions for things I can do to make her life extra comfy and cosy over the weekend, then shout up now.